Your Thai Planet

This is the story of how I have met my ex.

I ended up moving to Hawaii. My roommate who was from Chicago and an old friend of his had invited him to go to Thailand and they asked me if I wanted to go. At the time I didn't even know where Thailand was at, but I said "hell yea . . . I'll go." So we went and had an absolute blast. As soon we got back, we were planning our next trip.

So, I went back to Thailand several times over the course of a couple of years when I was living in Hawaii. So I decided to move back to North Carolina so I could save more money to be able to spend more time in Thailand and that worked out great for me. I ended up staying in the states for 6 months and living in Thailand for 6 months, sometimes more.

One day I was on the computer and seen a picture of a girl from Bangkok and thought, "damn she's hot". So I done some digging around and found her email address. I sent her an email and added her to my Hotmail list and that was the end of it.

I continued to work and save money and went back to Thailand for another 6-month stay. I stayed my 6 months and never heard from "her". Then, 2 days after I got back from my trip. I was online and she came online and sent me message. By this time I had erased her from my list. Then I realized it was her. I was shocked and happy at the same time. So, we where chatting and it was going great for both of us. We chatted for several hours and decided that we would talk again the next night, and we did. We ended up talking online every night. Then we started called each other on the phone. This went on for almost 6 months until I arrived in Bangkok on Nov. 11, 2004.

As soon has I arrived at the airport, it started. I had just spent 27 hours on an airplane and all I wanted to do was to go to the apartment and take a shower. But NOOOO, she want to stay at the airport and eat, cause she was hungry. This was the first sign of things (I don't see coming til it was to late) to come. So, after arguing with her forever, she agreed to go back to the apartment and wait to eat later. Once we got their, she forgot about how hungry she was.

The first month "almost" great. We would go out at night and come home and do "our thing". It was pretty good. We would still argue over dumb shit. She would get mad over the dumbest stuff. How I would walk, eat, sit, talk ... etc. everything. I think she was trying to change me to be someone I'm not and I wasn't having it, at all. I think she wanted me to be FAKE just like her and her friends were.

They 're the type of people to pretend to have money and know famous Thai people. They would hangout with the rich ass farang's (foreigners) who thought their shit didn't stink. She wanted me to be more like them and not be myself. I'm a small town guy and don't care what people think.

Then, after about 2 months of being together...it happened. She was pregnant. Then everything changed. Will almost.... we still argued over her dumb shit. After we found out she was pregnant. Things did get a lot better. On a scale of (1 to 10) I would say we were an (8), before we was a (3).

So, every things going good. By this time it's May '05 and I have to go back home. I get back home, I'm working, and we're talking almost every day. She's taking good care of herself. The baby is due around the end of August, beginning of September. So I decide to come back to Thailand in the first week in August. So I can be there a month before and a month after the baby was born.

We done the visa thing, every things going like things should be going.

Move forward to January '06. Her and the baby just spent 17hrs on a nonstop flight from Bangkok to New York City. They're flight arrived 5 hrs before my flight did. So they had to wait on me. I finally get to the airport and meet up them. Guess what? She is so tired and all she wants to do is sleep. I look at her with a smile and say "now you understand what I was talking about, don't you?" she said, "Yes, I do now.... I'm sorry". We go to the hotel. They sleep all day, all night. We all catch our flight the next day back to North Carolina.

We get back, first couple months was really good. We were doing the whole "family thing". Then it slowly got worse. By now it's around November '06. She's missing home; her family is missing her and the baby. So we decided that they would go back to Thailand after Christmas. They leave in January '07.

They' re Bangkok. I'm sending her money left and right. She's spending it left and right. This goes on for a month and a half. I finally cut her off. I tell her" I'm broke, I'm not getting most work and you going to have to be tight with the money". She gets better with spending money after that. So I talked her in to coming back in March '07 because our anniversary was on April 2, but she didn't want too (I'll tell you why later).

The minute she gets back I see she's acting weird, something's wrong. I don't know what, cause she's always moody. She gets back and it's our anniversary. I get everything setup, I get a babysitter, a hotel room and we head out for a night on the town and what does she do? She sit at the fucking table ALL NIGHT LONG talking to a deaf guy that I know from my old neighborhood. Hell, she wouldn't even dance with me (I was pissed!)

When she got back, she started wanting to go hang out with some Thai friends who lived in Fayetteville, which was fine be me. I knew them and they where really cool girls and was also married.

After about a month. She keeps telling me she wants to get her licenses so she can go to back to school and get a job. So we got her some licenses and she started school, she met a few girls that were from all over the world and they all had a lot in common. She started hanging out with them and going out at night, but not all the time. Just every once and awhile. I didn't care if she went out with her friends because I trusted her and I always told her "I will always trust you until you give me a reason not too". Plus, she literally sit at the house everyday for a year and could never go anywhere unless my dad came down to take us somewhere (he came down on weekends, cause I didn't have licenses at the time) So I wanted her to get out. I felt she deserved it.

Then it got to be more and more and then she would start staying over at her friends' house because she had been drinking and she knew I didn't want her to be drinking and driving. Finally I said something to her and she got defensive about it and I knew something was up. Cause she can't lie for shit! By this time she was trying to be sneaky. Always on the computer and text messaging on the phone.

I started doing some digging and found out that she had a boyfriend that she had met a school. I also found out that when she was going to Fayetteville to stay with her Thai friends. That she was going out to clubs and bars with other guys. After some more digging, I found out one of the guys names that she was talking to in Fayetteville. When I asked her "Who is Brad" she said, (with let face movement that she does when she lies) "He's a guy in my English class" and I said, "So, it's not Brad from Fayetteville, who is 24 years old?"

BOOM!!!.... SHE'S BUSTED!!

She didn't know what to say. She knows I know when she's lying. So doing what I can do best (when it comes to Thai women) I started talking to her Thai friends and doing some more digging on my own and lying myself to make everybody believe I knew more then I really did. Everybody started talking and I found out everything.

A few days go by and we are talking and she confesses everything (almost everything) She told me about the guys in Fayetteville and the guy at school, but I didn't believe her.

So here comes the BIG ONE for me. I had found a letter about a month before from a clinic in Fayetteville, but I didn't know what it was, but now I know. The dumb bitch had gone to Thailand, hooked up with some guy and had gotten pregnant...YES... I said PREGNANT.... came back here and when she was in another town one day went to this clinic and had an abortion. When I confronted her about it. She started crying and said, "I was raped by some guy her friend had met and came back home with them"...(BULLSHIT!) I later found out his name too and of course like always she ended up telling me the truth. This time she told me everything.

Some time passed and I told her that I was willing to forget about all the shit she had done and that I was willing to try and work things out, but she would have to stop going out with her friends. You know the dumb ass said? She said "NO!" and that she wasn't happy here (neither was I to tell you the truth) and that "She didn't want to stay here anymore, she wanted to move" I told her "Fine, but Derek stays here" A month or so goes by, she got a job and I help her get her shit out of my house and here we are today getting along better then ever as long as we both know that one of us can leave at anytime.

We are both looking forward to our divorce and have even discussed go out and celebrating our divorce together...You know... A Divorce Party!

And this has been the story of how I met my ex.

WOW man!! Thats one hell of a story...Glad to hear that everything has worked out for the two of you. Not all couples have a friendship after they slit...LUCKY YOU...LOL!